For those of you struggling to put together the pieces of your broken life while enduring the judgement and condescension of others, I want to encourage you. Ever since the creation of the world people have been trying to put on a front. They’ve been trying to tell themselves, their spouses and children, their co-workers, their friends, and the world around them that they had it all together.
- They have said it with the condescending way they have looked at others.
- They have said it through the way they treated others.
- They have said it with the way they refused to talk about certain subjects that went to the core of their pain.
- They have said it through the cars they drove and the cars they refused to drive.
- They have said it through the rules they created and tried to place on you.
- They have said it through their relentless pursuit of something bigger.
I can put a check mark on all of the above…so don’t let me fool you, either. I am a broken man, too. Welcome to the club.
Do not let the people around you fool you into believing they have not suffered a tremendous amount of pain, shame, fear, and worry. They are humans, too. Our fallen state as people sets us up for a long line of pain and hurt. The sooner you can accept that reality, the sooner you can experience an astounding amount of freedom.
The people who tell you they are not broken are lying. Do your best not to take offense, though. They are probably not lying nearly as much to you as they are to themselves. It is a tough thing for most of us to acknowledge that we are in pain one way or another. Our pride tells us not to show that to anyone. We are supposed to have it all together, right?
I encourage you to not be afraid. You are not alone. People will still hurt you, but do not immediately assume that they wanted to hurt you. That may be the only thing they know to do. They may have spent a lifetime being hurt by those who were supposed to love them the most.
Put on a new set of glasses today. Put on glasses of mercy and grace. Those are the same glasses Jesus was wearing when He died for you.
“but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us”
Romans 5:8 ESV
He knows you aren’t perfect. Do your best to not allow the expectations of others to affect your own humble acknowledgement of how much you need healing. Jesus did not come to save the healthy. He, the Wonderful Physician, came to heal a sick and dying world.
So, embrace your wounds. I am not encouraging you to stay broken. I am not encouraging you to point out others’ wounds. I am, however, encouraging you to be honest with yourself and others about them. Let Jesus heal those wounds and teach you how to live.
And the next time someone treats you like you are stupid for being broken, love them back. They just may need healing more than you do. They are broken, too.