“You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.”
James 4:4 NIV
I’ve found one of the greatest problems we encounter when helping struggling marriages comes from the company they keep. Their friends and family can have an incredible impact on their progress of healing or going further into the pits of Hell.
The church has allowed far too many unhealthy relationships, and the effects on their souls, lifestyles, and hearts is heartbreaking. Out of a politically correct allegiance, they’ve allowed themselves to be attached to godless people. They do it all in the name of “being in the world, but not of the world”, but have no idea what that really means. It’s killing them. Their peers and associates have far too much influence. It’s long since been eroding away at the hearts of men and, as a result, the foundations of the home & the church.
Husbands & wives vent their marital problems to their peers at work and then listen to the worst advice ever given. They listen to people who have been in and out of marriage over and over again tell them how to respond to and deal with their spouse. They’re listening to total failures of the world tell them what to do and how to do it.
My Dad used to tell me every time I left the house, “Derek, remember who you are.” I frequently would laugh and tease in response. Invariably, Dad would respond with “I’m serious, Derek. Think about which way the influence is going.”
When you spend time with any of your friends or peers, which way is the influence going? Are you friends with people who make you an enemy with God? If so, what do you need to do about it?